Causes For Queerness? How Trying To “Fix” Us Actually Breaks Us

(photo by Sharon Christina Rørvik / art by Jamie Arpin-Ricci)

By the time I was in my mid-twenties, established in my administrative job at the Christian organization, Youth With A Mission (YWAM), I had worked hard to build protective walls around my bisexuality (which I still thought of in terms of being “only kind of gay”). I had intentionally gained an unhealthy amount of weight to make myself unattractive to other men, carving out a space…