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“Should I Tell My Fiancé That I’m Bisexual?” Ask Me Anything
Today I launch the first of my weekly advice column where I answer questions from readers about sexuality, faith, justice, or whatever crosses their minds. This first question is one that I hear a fair bit, so it was an easy choice for my first reply:
Dear Jamie,
I am a bisexual man who is not out to anyone. I am engaged to be married to an amazing woman that I love (and who loves me). We both are fully and happily choosing to be practice monogamy in our relationship. The thing is, I’ve never told her that I am bisexual and I am not sure if I should.
Hear me out: We plan on being together in a monogamous marriage for “as long as we both shall live”. We’re both virgins and have no interest in being with anyone else. I know she won’t love me any less if I told her, but I know it would probably make her nervous and uncertain.
Given all of that and since I never want to…